Young Marriage

When I met my husband, I was 19, he was 20. I was going to be starting my Junior Year of college, I thought that no one should get married until they have graduated college and started their careers, I was so anxious to start my career that I had worked hard enough to be able to graduate a year earlier than most. As a Freshman/Sophomore (same year), I had joined a Sorority on campus, joined multiple clubs and was anxious to "find myself." I thought a career and being successful were crucial to being happy. I wanted to make money and be self sufficient and travel the world without a "ball and chain" holding me back. BOY WAS I WRONG!

I met my husband a month before my Junior year started. I had been taking two summer courses and an internship. Then I met him. I don't know if I believe in love at first sight but I can tell you that I knew I was supposed to meet him that day. From the day we met we both felt a connection to each other, we weren't sure what that connection was yet. Now I'm not saying our relationship was perfect from day one. We have had many ups and many downs, we unintentionally hurt each other, but we always missed each other so we came back. We believe that God wanted our relationship to be that way so we could learn more about each other and realize how much we would need that other person to be truly happy.

My husband was 21 and I was 21 when we got married. Many will say that is too young and we don't know what we want out of life yet and we should have waited. Many people associate 20's with immaturity. Why is that? My parents were married the same age I was, my grandparents were even younger. Why is our generation depicted as too immature for our age? What is so different about our generation from previous generations? Many people believe that there is a specific order you must live your life to be successful.

1. Graduate College

2. Build up Career

3. Get Married

4. Have Children

I am currently in my last semester of college, I am graduating at the exact same time I would have if I hadn't met my husband and hadn't gotten married. I have job opportunities lined up for me when I do graduate. My professional life has not been altered because of my decision to get married before graduation. In fact I am sure that I would not have been able to do it with out my husband there beside me encouraging me and helping me. My husband has different interests than I do, he is developing new interests everyday. Our interests are not what defines us. I have changed in so many ways since I have met my husband, but we grow and learn together. My husband has changed his major 5 times since I have met him. That doesn't mean he isn't the same person I fell in love with. We "found ourselves" when we found each other. Our interests and where life takes us from here is a journey that we will be taking together. If my husband wants to run off and join the circus, I will not divorce him, I will be a good wife and be understanding and do everything in my ability to make that dream possible for him. If he wants to work for a big corporation working 80 hours a week, I will be understanding just like he will strive to balance work and home life.

Young marriage has such a negative reputation, because our generation is known for being selfish and childish, but it is not just young people who do not know the true meaning of marriage. I have known those in their 30s and 40s getting married for the fourth or fifth time because they see marriage as a convenience. Just something to do to have more money or someone to help with the kids. Our culture has somehow lost the meaning of marriage therefore young people and looked upon negatively if they decide to get married before they "find themselves." God gave marriage as a gift, someone to share you life with. Marriage is not always an easy road to travel on, but divorce should not be an option. It isn't just those in their 20's that don't understand this. It is those who have lost sight of God and the meaning of unconditional love.

I used to be one that thought 20's was too young. But once you find the one that God made for you, there is no point in waiting. What are you waiting for? The night sky to light up with the words "you are now mature enough to get married"? Well that's not very realistic. If you are in love, you have been dating or have known each other for a long enough period to really know one another, and you truly understand that marriage is a life long commitment to that one person. THEN GET MARRIED if that is what you want. Life happens all to quickly and if you wait around until you are deemed old enough by society then you will lose out on all those months or years you could have been happily married and started a family. If you are unsure or don't think you are ready for marriage then there is no pressure to get married.

It is your life and if you wait around for societies approval on everything then you will be waiting for a long time to start your life. If you are "young" and happily married then good for you! Obviously you are doing something right in your marriage and life that society should look up to not down on.

New Year's Resolutions

So the new year is in full swing, and we are finally getting used to the idea that 2014 is over, another year has passed. Whether you are happy, nostalgic, or sad that the new year is upon us, we can't help but set our new year's resolutions. Many people claim that its too cliche for them and they refuse to take part in that tradition. However, we as humans can't help but have hopes and dreams for this new year. Whether you hope to travel more, or graduate college or get married, maybe you're having a baby and hope it a boy or girl, or you're just hoping it's happy and healthy. All of these things are resolutions.

You are going to do something different from the year before to be able to travel more. You are going to work harder in school to ensure that you graduate. No matter what you hope for in this new year, you are going to actively do something to make that happen and that is what a resolution is.

This year will bring many joyful and challenging experiences for me. This year I will be a married woman, graduating college and having our first child. My new year's resolutions are too many to count. I will work as hard as I possibly can to get some totally awesome grades this semester in college so I will be able to graduate in May. I will do everything I possibly can to ensure that our Baby Spicer is as happy and healthy as he/she can be when he/she is brought into this world. Last but not least, I will strive to be the best wife I can possibly be. Fine-tuning my cooking skills may help that last one a bit. NO MORE SETTING OFF THE FIRE ALARM!

No matter what challenges this new year may bring, always remember that a new year is just right around the corner so don't focus on the negative, be sure to have some positive memories of every year.

DIY: Turning an Old Cabinet into a Baby's Changing Table

C and I picked up this cabinet from one of our neighbors. We had a vision of turning it into a dresser/changing table for our baby we are expecting in June. Here is what the dresser looked like when we got it. 

As you can see it needed a lot of work. We started by sanding off all of the paint, there was a blue layer you can see, then a green layer of paint underneath.



Next we painted the base color. We used Behr, Pumpkin Creme, two coats of paint.



Next was the fun part. the sea creatures. we purchased stensils at Hobby Lobby. Used painters tape to hold the stencil in place. Be sure to take every little bit you can to avoid the stensil separating from the surface causing the paint to run.


Here is the end result for the large drawer.


We continued this with the entire dresser, below is our end result. The baskets were also purchased at Hobby Lobby. 




If you have any questions or comments please leave comments in the section below.
Have a blessed day!

No Nausea in First Trimester?

I am 11 weeks pregnant and I have gotten sick a grand total of twice so far. What happened to the stories everyone has been telling me? Saying that they were so sick through most of the first trimester. At first I wondered if i had a false positive, or if there was something wrong with my baby. Turns out that not everyone gets nauseous during pregnancy. I consider myself extremely lucky.

Not only is every pregnancy different from woman to woman, it can also differ between pregnancies. Just because you have no nausea with your first pregnancy does not mean you won't be sick with your second baby. Also if you were so sick you couldn't get out of bed with your first, does not mean you will be sick with your second. Each and every pregnancy is different. You just have to find whats best for you and your baby. People tell me to eat saltines. Saltines make me nauseous because they are so dry. Just because one food has worked for one of your friends does not mean it will work or not work for you.

The fun part of pregnancy is experimenting. Just make sure you aren't eating or drinking anything that is harmful to your baby and everything will be fine.

Big News!!!

Big news!! C and I are pregnant! I am about 8 weeks along and feeling great. I know most of you mothers probably don't want to hear this but I haven't had any morning sickness at all! This is our first child and I have hardly had any symptoms. We are so happy. For those of you struggling with morning sickness though try taking your prenatal vitamin at a different time. I started mine in the mornings and would be nauseous but I switched to taking them right before bed and I feel perfect! I will keep you all updated!

Wonders of a Hair Cut

      Before.                      After

Yesterday I chopped off all that hair. Today I feel like a completely different person. I haven't had short hair for over 10 years and I love it!! I feel like a gutsiest person, like I could take on the world. I have always dyed my hair when I was ready for a change, but cutting off all your is better than dying it. It gives you a more fulfilling sense of change. This is just one of the many wonders if getting a hair cut. 

               I highly recommend it. 

Yoga Poses To Destress and Unwind

Season is here in South West Florida. Driving is a nightmare this time of the year, sometimes you just need to unwind and destress before your head explodes. Here are my top yoga poses that really help me unwind after a tough day.



1. Downward Dog

Downward facing dog is not only great for your hamstrings, but also great to clear your mind and breathe. 

2. Lotus Position

Lotus is often the position that yogis use for mindful practice or meditation because it opens up your chest without any distracting stretching and making it either to focus on your breath.







3. Tree Pose

Only try this one if you have proper balance and posture. *hint* The higher you reach the more balanced you become.  This is true in both yoga and in life.

4. Upward facing dog

This pose helps you open your chest further that you thought was possible and makes breathing so much easier. 

These are just a few poses that help me relax and destress. What are some of your favorite yoga poses?